What’s Better: An Apology to your face or a nice apology letter?

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John Doe Profile
John Doe answered

A proper apology should always be in person.....any other way just seems insincere.

Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

It depends on the circumstances but, in almost every case, face to face would be better.

Of course, that can be overdone. A man, running for the train knocked me off my crutches on a busy railway platform and stayed for five minutes apologising. A simple, "Sorry, mate," as he helped me up would have been enough. The poor guy was awfully embarrassed.

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Dear Stirrer,
Your miserable excuse for an excuse is not acceptable to me. Nor will it be till you board a jumbo jet, cross the Pacific, and stand in front of me begging forgiveness. '
Then I might -- MIGHT, I say -- accept your apology.
Yours in anger, '
The Curmudgeon.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
She's a terrible person, Tiger. :(
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Face to face means more in my book!

Tinkerbell St. Basil Profile

I would want both!  Let me begin by saying, I've never been one to forgive easily. So if I have been wronged in any way, a nice, well thought out letter would be a good start followed up by a face to face meeting. A written letter is a lost art, therefore, if someone takes the time and effort to actually put some thought into their words---it's worth a look. 

It would also put the ball in my court to decide if I even WANT to see this person again for a face to face. A letter would give you time to digest the situation making the face to face much less awkward.

Cheryl Hackett Profile
Cheryl Hackett answered

I think a face to face apology is the best way to apologize  because, then u can see how sincere the person is, by the expression on their face & their body language.  Someone who makes the effort to apologize in person, I think it shows more sincerity. 

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Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

A face to face apology is always better as its more personal and carries more meaning than a written one as anyone could have written it and it usually shows its not from the heart so if at all possible, be the bigger person and do it in person and youll be thankful you did

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

If the appology is of a personal nature, then it should be face to face .. If it was of a public nature, then it should be face to face AND a public appology.  Just sending someone an applogy via letter lacks a personal touch. Facing someone and appologizing so they are allowed the benefit of your facial expression and body language with is extremely important during communication on an 'emotional' level.  Something that may be missed by the written word.

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